Many fouls are committed because of a previous inaction rather than the specific action. That is, failure to block out leads to offensive rebound and a defensive swipe at the put back. I don't want to fix the swipe as much as the lack of the blockout that created the situation. I will address both (as in don't compound your first error by swiping at the ball you didn't rebound), but my focus will not be the foul but the rebound.
Similarly, the help defender often gets into trouble and fouls because the initial defender quit on the play, allowing the offensive player more freedom of movement. I am more focused on the player who failed to stay with her defense than the one that tried to help (although I will probably talk to B2 about not picking up cheap fouls).
Bottomline - I agree. Don't coach my players. And I really try not to ref too much, but I will offer unsolicited advice from time to time
