Well to me the social media ain't the problem. It's the National Federation that has the problem. I'm here under an AKA, 'cause our fed. don't want us to be on a forum, nor on Facebook (and others) with softball related
friends.
I do have a LinkedIn account, but nothing else. I want my friends to be real, the ones I can have a beer with.
The players and coaches that I know outside the softball-community are, just like me, professional enough to don't let the game come between our friendship. Before and during the game, nobody can see we are friends. After we all have had our shower, we can all together have a beer (or two)...
For example this little story. Last week I was umpire on the ECWA 2012 in Enschede (Ned.) [an ESF tournament -
ECWA 2012 - 20-25 august -]. I saw a friend on nearby the bar. He was with his DD there and she was a player on the tournament. When I came to talk to her father, she just gave me a smile and left us... That's the proper way to avoid problems.