Here is the thing that the media and people like you need to sometimes realize. It is not our job to know what you are thinking or to assume anything. If you do not want to be seen as being upset with an umpire's call, then do not do things that make it look like you are just doing that.
I watched BBTN and John Kruk wanted everyone to believe that the actions were simply being upset with himself on a close play. Well that might have been true, but it does not help when the stupid media keeps repeating a myth of baseball (tie goes to the runner).
Now then the manager thinks he can say and do whatever he wants and then he is supposed to get a pass. It always amazes me that when these things happen, no one in the media seems to blame bad behavior on players and coaches. This has nothing to do with Joe West or anything related to such. You have an umpire that has someone in his face and it is his fault that he ejected someone.
It is like the guy that throws a ball close to the head of a guy and then gets upset that the batter thinks he did not mean it, but the pitcher looks at the batter to suggest "Let’s go." Then later acting like, "I did not do anything wrong."
That is what I think.