[MD Longhorn]

We all have games like this and they suck. That said, I think you gave WAY WAY too much rope to the ASSistant coach. He is there to assist the manager. Asking you simple (and cordial) questions is fine. Disputing ANYTHING the umpires do is not acceptable. I believe just about anyone I work with would have tossed him long before you did.

Second - I would not have called the police over unless something escalated into becoming a police matter. You have a perfect remedy. If the coach can't control his assistant, he's gone too. If they won't leave in a timely manner, you're done for the day.

Regarding the plate conference, I agree with the others who state they would not alter their conference to address the possibly contentious atmosphere - the conference is not a place for warnings. However, I do differ from them in that my normal plate conference includes the statement - "Make sure the players are properly equipped and are not wearing jewelry". I don't treat this as "their warning", and if I see jewelry later, I warn first. But MOST of the time, this friendly reminder to both coaches at once lets them address the issue (if there is one) before the game and I very very rarely have to address it in-game.