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Originally posted by Nevadaref
my self-confidence makes me believe that I could do just as good a job, if not better, than many of these guys.
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Nevadaref --
If you CAN do that good a job, why DON"T you? What I mean is that self-confidence needs to have a realistic view, not a cocky attitude. For instance, I did my first two real (not summer) HS varsity games this year. I did a pretty darn good job, and my newly developing self-confidence tells me that I could probably do an adequate job at any HS girls varsity game in our area, and I'd be better than an empty slot in most boys' HS varsity games. That's about a step or two above where I am now. I have quite a bit of self-confidence now, but it doesn't run to just any ball that I happen to come in contact with. Just because I'm good at my level, and getting ready to move up, doesn't mean I'm ready for anything.
Part of my self-confidence is granting ability to the refs around me, and the assignors around me who aren't rushing me into college ball. If they think I'm not ready yet, I probably am not. If I could do a good job there, wouldn't they want me?!?!
The folks around here who complain about not moving up because of politics, usually don't have much of an audience, because there is usually some other glaring reason why they haven't moved up. And even if someone gets stalled at one level, if they are really good, they have sometimes skipped over a level and moved up in spite of politics. I'm not sure whether "the system" is totally fair for women or racial minorities, but my point isn't to describe the system here, rather to point out that your "self-confidence" may be deceiving you.