This is related.....sorta. Early this year
VB game. Visiting team is down by 19 in the first half and apparently out of it. End of 3 they are still down 15. In the 4th they start to press and make a run and finally cut the lead all the way to 1. Meanwhile, as you might imagine, the visiting coach had become more and more active and vocal. Very little, if any, of this was nasty, but he was just making calls out loud. Travel! Foul! etc. I might add that I felt at the time that most of what he asked for was at least semi-legitimate, he was not just grasping at every straw, but he did get louder as the game got closer. Finally, after reporting a foul, I stopped in front of the bench and said, "Coach, would you do me a favor
and do a little more coaching and a little less calling? I
will ask you nicely the first time." He acted surprised.
"What? I'm just talking to my team." I'm still being nice.
"Coach, when you yell 'Travel' you're not talking to your team." He acted like he didn't hear this part. "I'm just talking to my team," and shrugged. his shoulder. I hadn't been annoyed until this point, but I just said, "Never mind, coach, just forget it." I don't know if he got better, but he didn't get any worse, so nothing further came of it. But here's the kicker. The assistant coach had picked up a T from my partner in the first 3 minutes of the game. indirect to head coach, shouldn't have been standing up anyway, etc. DUH! I didn't put all this together until days later when I was recalling the incident.
The question I then had for myself, and now I open for debate, is since we let him go the whole game,
would I/should I have told him when we had this exchange if I had suddenly remembered then, "Oh, by the way, you gotta sit the rest of the game," or should I have just said to myself it's too late now and I won't stir the waters any further? I was glad that I hadn't remembered and had to make a quick, possibly rash decision.