I completely understand and have the same problems.
I am 20 years old right now, I have been reffing for seven years (this is my first year in the high school association). I consider myself having a great deal of experience, maybe not at the varsity level, but I have worked anywhere from 3rd grade to
VB. I work with guys that most of them are helpful, but some of them just walk up and down the court and don't do anything to help me out. The coaches all know these 'old-timers' so they do not say a word to them... They are all out of position on a call, and their should be a call made but they hold on their whistle, if I call it i'm the bad guy calling out of position, but if I let it pass they scream at me and act like I'm the one that is supposed to be calling it!!! I eventually want to get at the D1 College Level, and I firmly believe I will get there. I went to my first camp last summer and have another one this summer. I just wish we could pick and choose our ideal partners but we cant. Bummer