[rwest]

First of all, we all have games like that. If we quit the first bad game we had, we would never have made it out of our 1st year. If you enjoy what you are doing, then don't quit. Stick with it. You will get better. It sounds like you care about doing a good job. That's probably the most important aspect of being a good official. If you don't care, you won't read the rule book, attend clinics, etc.

Every time you step on the court you should learn something. You learn from every partner you have. Unfortunately, sometimes it's what not to do. That's what you learned from this guy. To acutally bring your ovaries into the discourse is total unprofessional and unbelievable.

Also, remember that there are fouls, violations and ugly. Ugly isn't always a foul. It's just ugly. We don't call ugly. We call fouls and violations. Leave ugly alone.

As others have suggested, concentrate on improving a part of your game each time you go onto the court. Being new, you have a lot to work one. That's not meant as an insult! We all did! Take it one game at a time. Work on two or three things each game. If you have a good partner let them know what you want to work on, but only if you can trust them and only if you respect their opinion.

Hang in there.