In a case like this, if it happened early in the game, you might want to consider mentioning it to your daughter's coach during a break, if appropriate. Have the coach ask one of the guy's partners politely. There shouldn't be a problem if the coach is just requesting a rule interp.
If, by some miracle, the coach actually has a rule book, you could even point out the rule and have the coach do the same with the official. Of course, that's a bazillion to one shot.
