[rainmaker]

Originally posted by Ref Daddy

Had a 1st year partner, 8th grade girls. Blow out by EOQ1.
Loosers frustration building.

At start of Q2 something happened underneith and parter throws a "T". Then another one back to back. 2 differnet players same (loosing) team. BTW the home team.

So hell opens up. He didn't sell either, got flustered, didn't report, paced under the BBoard...pissed. Crowd on him hard, coach's up.....

I do my best to sort it out, calm him down, get the report, admin 2 shots, ask girls to settle down but my co was shook. Next time down the same way, I call foul - he calls and signals INTENTIONAL on same play in MY ZONE!

Gym starting to get real small.

I wanted to support him, but... he'd lost his demeaner! He was redfaced pacing still. Not reporting just blowing and pacing.

We needed a break. Told him I'd talk to coach's, he should "get it togather". I called coach's to table asked they help settle teams down. We inch'd along but I had 11 people on the court to watch now.

I've been in this place a time or two -- not your place, but your partner's. Later wished I had a partner like you were. From the receiving end, what I would have liked was just the pause you engineered, with some encouraging words such as "Ref in the moment, let the past go." "I think we've got it under control now" "You can do this, and I need you" or some such. I'm wondering if the second half went better.