[shishstripes]

I agree with what has been said, limit your conversations.

I learned the hard way. Early in my career I was invited to a tournament because of a cancelation. While "pre-tournamenting" (pre-game for the whole tourney) with the two other officials, the head official brought up a point of philosophy that I hadn't heard before and hadn't been calling that way.

I knew the players very well that were in the tournament and mentioned to a couple of coaches about the point brought up in our meeting and that a couple of players (A and B) would need to adjust their games because of it. Wasn't meaning anything by it.

Later, the tournament director pulled me off a game and said you made some comments and the coach believes you are gunning for one of his players as he saw that I worked hard and called games without bias.

I said too much because I said something. Lesson learned and I have moved on. I was upset with the coach just as you are but both of us got over it and are good friends.