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Well, there's no denying that you guys are all better refs than me, and it may be that when I'm at your level, I won't be sticking to a list anymore. With as little experience as I've got, it has been helpful to me to think some things out ahead of time. That way I'm not caught off guard, and I'm not re-acting out of emotion. So I made a little list of sub-rules for myself. It has helped a lot. I don't have to stick to them rigidly, but it gives me a starting place to think something through.
The first coach I had to eject was near the end of my first season. He was a real jerk, (still is, everyone else agrees!). My partner had already given him one T, and then I heard him curse, although it was very quiet. Was it at me? Without question. Would I do it again? I'm not sure, but the fallout was so nasty, that I spent a lot of tiem thinking about it. I reacted emotionally, to the profanity, but with more fore-thought, I might have handled things differently. So I started going over situations in my head, making patterns in my thinking. Which ended up as a little list of rules. It has served me well, and I think other newer refs might also benefit from the exercise.
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