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Originally Posted by Terrapins Fan
I'd love to post this anonymously, but I'll take the blame here.
1st "T" of the year last night. Last year I had about 15 total and all were good. I have done 17 games to date, mostly varsity.
Here's the situation. #10 for visitor fouls #21 for home team hard. My partner has the foul. I hear #10 say something to the effect about "bringing that soft a$$ something something," but I can make it out real well because she is wearing a mouth guard. I let it go, it's fairly early in the game and no other problems. Then 3 plays later, 10 and 21 on a Free throw 21 has inside position and gets knocked to the floor hard, she has to leave the game, they were not my responsibility so, I missed exactly what happened. Half time.
Partners talk about what happened in 1st half and I let them know ( I am the R ) that we weren't going to put up with any trash talk for #10 and we talked about the 2 hard contacts between 10 and 21.
Visitors down by about 14 in 3rd and they are making a comeback cut the lead to about 7. Home team scores and 10 is mouthing off, but because she has a mouth piece in I can't make out what she is saying. Her mannerisms lead me to believe that she was complaining about the no call, perhaps there was a missed walk on home team, I don't know. I was in "C" and closest to the action. I "T" her up for mouthing off.
Coach asks why I "T'ed" her and I explain that she had trash talked earlier and I felt she was doing the same thing this time, but I couldn't make out her words because of the mouth guard. Coach not happy. Fans less happy and they are riding me the rest of the game. Home team runs off 10 straight and has a good lead again. Visitors cut it to a tie in the fourth then we have to call a lot of fouls in the last minute and home team wins it at the Free throw line by 4 points making 4 of 6 FTs.
How bad was this "T". I don't feel good about it because I couldn't make out what she said, but there had been an accumulative behavior to that point.
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I believe that you missed the appropriate T at the time of the first inappropriate comment. That situation stayed with you and definitely impacted the choice that you made later.
I'm against getting someone later for something that they did earlier and weren't punished for, but as you noted there is a cumulative effect here. That is natural when dealing with people.
Personally, I never repeat with a player said to earn a T. When the coach asks "What did he say?" I have a few standard answers:
"He used inappropriate language."
"He used the f-word."
"Something that he shouldn't have."
"I'm not going to repeat it. You'll have to check with your player."
"It's not what he said, it was the way that he said it."