[greymule]

Sounds like the coach's comment was quite out of place in the context of the games you were doing. Like a guy going ballistic over a call in some co-ed picnic league. I guess it depends on several factors (tone of voice, loudness, facial expression, body language), but on the surface, I'd say that the remark shouldn't have been allowed to pass, either "throw the bat at her" or "I will [control the game]." I can picture myself doing anything from immediately ejecting to just walking down and talking to the guy, depending on my mood.

Brings up a good question, though. Yesterday I let "open your damn eyes" pass in a men's modified playoff. Normally, that would be a reflexive "You're gone," but the tense, crucial situation, who the player was, the fact that his teammates immediately told him to cut it out, the fact that I'm their regular ump and feel secure with nothing to prove, all these factors led me simply to ignore it, and today I don't regret having done so.