At an upper level, competitive deal...such as sanctioned HS event...totally wrong. I don't like it that they feel the need to press with 25 point lead...but it happens.
Lower level, say 6th and below......I know where you are coming from....been there.
Perhaps what might be incidental contact in a 1-2 point game is not incidental in the 25+ point game. If we can deem contact incidental and not blow the whistle, we can certainly deem the contact not incidental and blow the whistle.
Being a guy that officiates, sits on the local youth league board, coaches and wants to joing the positive coaching alliance....sometimes at lower levels, I have all my hats on when I'm wearing the stripes.