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Originally posted by theboys
I agree with Juulie's point, generally. But, although, boys may be more competitive, just like girls, they work collaboratively in their competitions to achieve goals. And, while girls may be more nurturing, girls are often more serious about their competitions. You ever see two girls fight? For guys, its generally one or two punches each, then everyone moves on. Girls will fight to the death if you let them. As I think Juulie suggested, for guys, fighting may be just posturing for placement within the group, whereas for girls its a survival instinct.
The growth of sports has been one of the greatest cultural changes for women. Until 10-20 years ago, women had few outlets to work as teams to accomplish goals. Boys grew up knowing that a team is only as good as its weakest player, and all of the other cliches. Until recently, women only had individual sports (e.g., tennis) and cheerleading.
My last rambling observation - we, as humans, like to think of ourselves as such advanced creatures, but I think we discount too easily the impact thousands of years of evolution have upon our motivations.
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I agree with everything you've written here, I look at it this way:
1. Generally girls tend to be more ruthless in their social interaction than boys, IMO. Especially against someone they view as a threat.
2. "Gender equality" as a concept is barely 100 years old, as a goal more like 40 years old & as a practice maybe 10 or 20 years old.
3. Much of what we do is somehow based on our having to survive in a wild environment (it wasn't too long ago when we were living in caves). Many of societies problems arise when people can't modify their "wired in" behavior to suit "modern culture". Put another way sometimes "modern
culture" pushes us in ways we just won't go.