1) I'm not a ref - just a fan who reads the forum because it is instructive and I've a LOT to learn about the game I have come to love.
2) My perception is that there are many posters here who have little or no respect for females playing BB. I would bet that if you did a forum search on "girls" you would find that a significant percent of the time it involved a put down type comment. At least that has been my reaction in reading this forum over the years.
3) I worked in corporate America for long enough to get a pension and lived through the bra burning era and before I retired, the President of my division was a woman. She is now the COO of a multinational corporation. My experience is that women make many of the dumb mistakes males make
In my experience, at some level, many men resent having to share the jobs which used to be all men with females. This seems to have decreased significantly as the guys who grew up seeing women in all sorts of job get to be more numerous. However, the tradition of men in an all male environment tending to be rather free with less than flattering comments about women continues and this forum is often treated as a "male club".
There is a time to let it go and get on with important stuff and there is a time to say ENOUGH! The he said/she said quibbling about how language was used is meaningless. The FACT is that this discussion started because a simple statement about a woman coaching a boy's team resulted in some nasty asides about women. The women here called the posters on it. Some may not understand why the women reacted and try to portray it as the women's problem. That tactic is as old as the hills and as discredited.