[JRutledge]

There is no "one size fits all" kind of issue that is going to work all the time no matter what. The only thing I think that was done wrong for sure was the "sit down" comment. Saying "Thank you" can work some times. Sometimes pointing out that we have called fouls can work. And sometimes it will not work.

I have said this before that many ways that coaches respond to us is based on things we will never be able to change. Sometimes it is your size, your race, your gender, your experience and where you live and what HS you once went to. If a coach feels he has a point and he does not respect what you have to say, you can say almost anything and it is not going to automatically work.

Based on what this guy said to me I might have completely ignored him at that point. And if I said anything later to him I might have addressed his behavior and not his question. But that is me and that works for me often because unless a coach knows you from previous games, they are not going to listen to what I say even if what I said was right on.

Dealing with coaches is an art, not a science.

Peace