It is almost impossible to find real plate shoes if your feet are smaller.
I would not be caught wearing the pants anywhere but the field. I buy mens' pants and have them altered and they are not the best but that is the uniform.
Many of the shirts come down to about mid thigh and need to be trimmed up.
I use the Schutt protector and that is great. I had an "ump" and it made me look like the Michelin Man. I actually tried the Honigs K2 but that did not protect the right areas.
Women can look the part however. There are a few male umpires that don't fit so well into their uniforms either.