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Originally Posted by SanDiegoSteve
"Are you arguing balls and strikes?" Answer: "Yes." Dump him.
"Are you arguing balls and strikes?" Answer: "No." Let him stay, and he really has nowhere to take the argument, as he has just said that he's not arguing. If he starts to argue again, dump him.
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Sorry Steve, but I disagree. In theory it sounds good, but asking him a question opens the door for all kinds of responses, putting you in an untenable position, and passing momentary control over to him. Don't ask questions -- make statements, issue dictates, show everyone that you are the authority, and always demonstrate through language, expression, and posture that you are in control.
Just to be clear, I don't mean to sound like I advocate all-out dictatorship on the diamond -- there is a way to be quietly and confidently in charge -- to be affable without yielding your authority -- to be compelling without being autocratic. Don't be a pushover, but don't be domineering either.