[Old School]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

Crying does not mean anything. I have seen kids cry over committing a turnover. Also we give kids a trophy for just participating. When I was a kid you had to actually win something to get an award. I learned that you have to work hard and be exceptional. Sorry, I do not find it abusive for an adult to take them out of a game and when the kid pouts, and then the adult confronts them (as it appears it happen in your story). Also remember you asked for opinions and when we give it to you, you want to challenge it. Why did you come here in the first place if you did not want to accept opinions?

My apologies for sending the message I am challenging your opinion. I am trying to steer the discussion in another direction then you are heading, although I do value your opinion and position on this issue. Please don't be offended when I tell you, you are living out of the past. There are a lot of things that happen yesterday that are no longer valid today. For instance, gang violence is wosre today then it was when I was in school.

I had bullies too when I was a kid. I punched one in the mouth and they left me alone. I did not run to my parents or other adults to handle my business. Not to say that works today as well, but at some point kids have to learn to deal with adversity. I was the only Black kid in an entire school and I had some issues to deal with and I survived and became very strong for it. Kids today have someone call them a name the world is coming to an end.

Don't you think you are scretching it a little bit when you say the world is coming to an end if someone calls a kid a name. Can we at least keep the conversation to what's real and not what's hyperbole To your point about the bullies. What you did way back when, might get you killed today, if you think a fight is over after one successful punch. Again, I would like to keep the conversation to the 20th century if you don't mind.

First of all I did not come here asking for your opinion. You are the one having trouble figuring out what to do. I know what I would do and it would not be what you suggested. I feel adults have the right to displine kids and sometimes yell at them. Remember you said the kid had to be restrained. If the kid is reacting like that, then they do not need to play sports.

Once again, you are lost in space and appears to be the one with the problem here. You are having the hardest time discussing it. It's okay that you would handle it differently. I also agree with you that coaches should be able to disciplhine there players, to a certain extinct. The problem that I have with you is that you are living out of yesterday. In the here and now, coaches go to the extreme, and so do some parents, and it is that extreme that I am discussing, that you can't seem to get your arm's around. You keep wanting to talk about something else, when there is a very real, a very valid problem out there with adults (coaches) crossing the line too.

Continue on talking about your point of view and what you think this is all about. Even though it is a different discussion, there is much to learn there too.