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I agree entirely with that comment Brad. But, I will also say that I have had some experience where using the captain, we have been able to calm the coach down. That's why I made my original point about Giving Respect to Get Respect (you and I will just have to agree to disagree on that point).
If the players see that you a)smile at the captains meeting, b)say a friendly word to 2 or 3 of them during pregame warm-ups, then c)you are more likely to garner their respect, which leads to d)being able to really rely on your captains (even if it's not the student-athlete that appears at the circle) to help calm players and coaches down.
That was really the intent of my original post - but in hearing JRut's full explanation of the game situation I felt like he tried to handle things in much the same way I would have and sometimes the tricks just don't work. Some kids are just A-holes plain and simple.
Jake
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If it adds anything, this kid was a captain. So I was trying to reason with him to allow him to be a leader. But that failed so I went to the next best thing and went to the coach. Not that him being a captain means much, but at least the coach has given him some authority or his teammates have given him some authority to act like a leader. And when the leaders act up, the followers follow.
But it never seems to amaze me how the coach that complains the most about what we do, loses most of the time. At least at the HS and below levels, coaching is sooo much more important at those levels than higher up. Not to say that coaches that lose composer at College and Pros do not need to still coach, but HS students are not mature enough to handle adversity the same way a college kid might. And even the college kid the more he plays (or she) they might find themselves handling adversity better. Hell they have seen a lot by the time they are in college usually.
Just like the official that has been done the same road several times, players that have been done the road several times just do not panic quite the same as someone that is going down that road for the first time.
And Brad is right. And that is what happen that night. But by the time he stopped complaining about everything (the coach I am talking about) it was too late. They were playing a very good TEAM and there is very little room for error in those situations. And the other coach basically keep his mouth shut and just coached. And you could tell that by him doing that, his kids just played. It was not like his kids did not get upset about certain calls by looking at their face, but they always had leaders that made them focus on their opponent and not us. And you could tell by the way they played. But that is why they are one of the best teams in the state at their level.
Peace