I like to get a feel for how my partner will handle situations in pre-game. One thing I ask another senior official is "How will we handle difficult situations? Do we let them (coaches/players) vent a little or hit them right away, depending on what and how they say things. What kind of tolerance do you have for this? Just so we can be on same page to start tonight."
This way we both are thinking the same way. It has worked well for me and my partners. Of course there is always the exception!