[just another ref]

Originally Posted by Jurassic Referee

In both situations you have legally made TO requests. In both situations, there's no reason by rule for you not to grant those TO requests.

These are the words I was waiting for someone to use. By rule, you must grant a time-out request which is properly made. When a player lands out of bounds before the time-out is granted, by rule it is a violation, because his request did not cause the ball to become dead. The bottom line is, I don't see how you can have it both ways.