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Originally Posted by JRutledge
First of all this is a 5th grade game I would not worry about it. Coaches at this level are there for a reason. If they understood how to coach or had any coaching ability or basketball background, they would be working somewhere else. 
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What's the difference between saying this and saying, "First of all this is a 5th grade game I would not worry about it.
Officials at this level are there for a reason. If they understood how to
officiate or had any
officiating ability or basketball background, they would be working somewhere else.
No need to be condescending.
What the coach was saying about her players "crying" was clearly that the official was not calling fouls on contact that was severe enough to make them cry.
Had you previously officiated in this league's regular season? Usually sub-HS officials allow less contact than HS leagues, and you were almost certainly allowing more contact than she believed to be normal. This may have been more her perception than reality, but her subsequent actions indicate she felt strongly about it.
To defuse the situation, you might have explained why the contact was not a foul, or you might have ignored the coach as others have suggested, but instead you chose to be antagonistic by making a wisecrack. This contributed to the coach's perception that you were targeting her team.