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Originally posted by bebanovich
My comments about how my kids respond to the threat of violence were merely to point out why my kids did not think this was as funny as the fans and officials and opponents seemed to think it was, not to offer an excuse for any outburst - that I feel compelled to repeat for only one or maybe two of you DID NOT HAPPEN. The best way to respect the cultural differences that existed in this game was to call the damn game equally to the end.
Expect me to teach sportsmanship, self-control, fundamentals and the rules of the game but don't make me explain to my kids why the rules can be waived for a while and they can be left out of the joke. So far I haven't really asked anyone to buy 100% the premise the the refs booted the call but they booted it and the whole gym new it and shared a good chuckle. That's not a lesson that I want to be teaching in the van on the way back home - the rules of basketball are not supposed to be subjected to a nod-and-a-wink mentality.
I am certainly not accusing anyone here of being as horrible as the refs in this game. Nor am I accusing anyone here, or even those horrible refs, of being racist. I'm just saying that race, economics and neighborhood do create different cultural beliefs and you can't assume that everyone is reading a situation the same way.
A lot of customs of our schools, workplaces and activities are based on values and unwritten rules that have their roots in white culture - yes, it's OK to say this (unless you want me to say European or Caucasian) and yes, white people do have a culture. In some sense, not all, but many students of color have to become bi-cultural. I have to help my students and players process this all the time and try to keep them from demonizing students who hone their skills in "proper English" or ("job interview English" as my students call it). It just gets that much harder when people shift the rules around or start making exceptions.
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Why do you keep asking your questions if you don't like or agree with any of the answers that you get? As far as I can tell, you're just wasting everybody's time, including your own. You're trying to lay your own shortcomings as a coach onto the officials, as far as I'm concerned. Yes, we expect you to teach sportsmanship. That's supposed to be part of a coach's job. You're not doing that when you go looking for reasons to blame things on the officials. One missed freaking call and you announce to the world that they're "horrible officials" and you just got to show your kids that you've got their backs by complaining. Now, what's wrong with that picture.
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my opinion! Feel free to ignore it or dismiss it. Your choice.