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Originally posted by Jimgolf
A call that you disagree with is not a slap in the face. Some times good people make mistakes, and sometimes good people see things differently than you. An example of good sportsmanship at this point would make a better lesson for your players than showing up an official.
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Amen, to that.
The difference between an "intentional foul" and a "common foul" is ... after an intentional foul you get the ball back. In a blow out game, this distinction is not important enough for you to be wasting your time with.
I coached, and I know that nothing made me seethe more than feeling like the opponents' physical play began to create the makings of unsafe conditions. I do agree that calling an foul as "intentional" or "technical" (I'm not suggesting that a T was appropriate under the circumstances described...) can have an effect on the game and settle it down. And, under the circumstances you described, would I as a coach and as an officiating colleague hope that the foul was called "intentional"? Yes. But what if it's not?
This is where your leadership really kicks in. YOU have to help your kids see that whether a foul is called "intentional" or "common," or even called at all, THEY have the ability to control their response. And if they want to play on YOUR team, they'll learn that lesson.
I'd be willing to guess that your player's angry reaction was formed, or forming, before s/he ever checked to see what signal the official was giving. S/he was mad at the hard contact, not at the signal the official was making after the whistle. Help your kids understand the appropriate response to hard contact and don't start them down the path that you're on, which appears to be waiting to see what an official does before you decide how you're going to handle the situation.
You have a tough job, no doubt about it.