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Don't over complicate the situation. Player asked a legitimate question and it's certainly okay to answer the question. Coach yelling at his player is probably not the best example of leadership/maturity but perhaps he's feeling left out or something.

Officials are expected to work together as a team. If you can't trust your partner to handle conversations without you being there then you're in trouble even before the game starts.

With an intentional foul, it's normal to feel defensive, somewhat, but if it's intentional, then blow the whistle and make the call and expect to get questioned on it. "Wondering what's being said" is the same situation the coach was in when he yelled at his player to get away - Okay for the ref to be defensive and not have any conversation without him but not okay for the coach to feel left out and not want the conversation to continue?? Trust your partner to handle the situation and not "sell you out" or think about getting a new partner.