[Ref Daddy]

I view coach's behavior and comments as them being advocates for their team.

When I hear a stinging remark from a coach I ask myself "is the commnet an opinion, an observation, a valuable contribution"? and then I move on.

If the comment is an insult, a hint of bias or demeaning, then my attention turns to the coach's behavior and not the matter of rules communications.

If a coach is gonna get "nasty" I CANNOT listen objectivly to their possibly legitimate questions or comments. I start blocking them out.

I'll also add the absolute HARDEST call to make is one the coach is pining for loud enough for the fans, other team and my partner to hear. Makes the offical look a puppet.

Finally, I belive coach's underestimate the view a referee has. We travel up and down the floor inch's from the teams and have a really good sense of who's, pushing, pulling, loose, quick, polished, talented, hot, intimidated, out-manned, etc. A coach has no way of knowing what I am seeing - but they know what THEY want me to see.

Thanks for working with our kids. Hope this is valuable to you.