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I don't think you baited the coach. However, I think it looks bad when an official initiates conversation with the coach and T's him. Sometimmes the coach leaves you no choice. When you sense that the conversation is going on too long or in a direction that you don't want, simply turn away or move away.

My other thought is, how well do you know the coach? Is this a tactic (talking to him) that has worked for you, or others, in the past? If you know this kind of information, remember it. Lots of times you don't and you don't know what to expect so you have to try your best and sometimes (like now) it doesn't work too well.

Officiating is an art, not a science. Things don't always work the way we think they should. Take this experience, learn what you can from it and be better next time.