What you are not including is we are stating opinions on specific situations. Situations that happened to other officials, we were not there.
So an official says this is what this coach/player did, what would you do?
We are stating an opinion on that specific act, rarely with enough context to judge what preventive measures could have been used earlier.
My partner and I have issued two T's in 16 games, 1 coach, 1 player and it was the same game.
I think we had 3 all of last season and I recall 1 the season before that, and I have said, "I'd whack em," in every thread so far on the subject.
Kind of blows up the theory that we are all T happy.