[CelticNHBlue]

First, I am unaware that NFHS has age groups since it is the High School governing body so the U-14 puzzles me. Maybe someone else with more focus and experience with NFHS can clarify this.

As for NCAA and ASA, and NFHS in general (I believe they all agree on this ruling), a coach who insists on an additional offensive conference in an inning will not be granted that conference and if s/he ignores that rule and in fact holds another conference will be ejected/relegated to the bench upon convening the conference.

Your appropriate mechanic should have been to, as you did, inform her/him of the rule. When s/he responded as they did, you would inform her/him of the appropriate penalty for breaking the rule. You probably won't be able to actually stop a conference if the coach wants to have one so when the second conference starts you inform her/him of removal from her/his position on the field. They will complete the conference prior to addressing you and your ruling so don't try to actually prevent the conference from happening.

At this time you ask her/him to leave the field quietly, respectfully, and with dignity (LOL). Once their voice is gone from the screaming, don't be surprised when they resort to sign language. If things do escalate, if you have a partner, s/he should interject to remove the coach with the assistance of a tournament official/school administrator, again, if available.

Also, many coaches will use the line 'nobody has ever questioned/done/said anything about that before' in an attempt to get away with something. They are counting on the official to not have a clear understanding of whatever rule they want to circumvent and back down from the confrontation, or like you did, invent a penalty. I will go as far to say that at least you seemed to try and find a rule (batter pre-pitch time limit) to base a ruling and a penalty on. Sometimes inexperienced umpires resort to baseball rules, sandlot rules, dodgeball rules, croquet rules, whatever comes to mind to make a ruling.

I am curious how the coach reacted to your calling a strike on the batter?