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I figure my reponsibility is to the people who pay me. Because they pay me they have a right to evaluate and judge my effort. They also have a right to verbalize that evaluation of my effort. I am not responsible to anybody else and thus, I don't worry about what they think, ie. coaches, parents, players, plain old fans. Because they are not part of the process, I don't allow them to become part of a problem.
You on the other hand, have taken on the responsibilty of coaching, nurturing, teaching, and playing a number of " athletes " in an athletic contest. As a result of that, you are held accountable by parents, grandparents, friends, other relatives, and - most importantly - the players themselves.