Coach,
I call what happens first, not what happens second. I was not there and I cannot say if the foul was intentional or not. I just know that I do not call what happens second, unless that might warrant another foul. Usually a defender grabs a player when they think the first foul is not going to be called. It also is a sign of desperation.
I will also say that official's feelings are not true as it relates to AAU ball where I live. He might be right in your area or where that tournament was held. I call the game pretty much the same way I do during HS or college games. The clock is running most of the time, that is just more time to rest.
So if there is a reason to call a foul like that, I would call it.
Peace