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Tony, you are in a tough crack. First, to your questions:
No, you were not wrong to want to get gone. Like Tee, as PU I'm firing the leftovers at the home dugout and moving "with a purpose" toward the gate. If I haven't already seen him heading the same way, I'll look back over my shoulder to make sure he's not hung up somehow, but if anyone wants to complement me, they'll do it while I'm moving or come see me in the parking lot. As BU, I'm moving with the same purpose directly from my last position to the same gate my partner is headed for, with the same over-the-shoulder look if PU isn't at the gate ahead of me. Fortunately, I'm senior enough that if I have a partner who seems tempted to linger, I can give him the "giddyapgo" signal to get the heck out of Dodge. Everyone more senior than I will be at the gate ahead of me, and I move pretty fast; sorta speaks to the issue, don't it? I appreciate that you are not so empowered.
BTW, we do NOT watch the handshake ritual, much less participate in it; and "waving" bye-bye at a losing coach is a potential disciplinary offense where I work. Taunting, don'tcha know?
No, you were not wrong to answer the coaches' inquiry, once you found yourself trapped. In general, I believe people ought not ask questions if they don't want to hear the answers. Coach has a personal problem, as someone else wrote; esp. as YOU didn't make the call: you told BU what you had, and he went with it.
If my partner wants to stand in the middle of the parking lot jawwing, he's gonna do it to my back: I'm on the way to the "locker room" [my car]. He can babble all he wants as I'm changing. Your obligation to have his back [physically] ends at the gate.
You gotta talk to your assignor or some major big dog in your assn. Not so much to get this guy on your avoid list [a consumation devoutly to be wished], as to be sure of what the norms are in your area. Is hanging around to jaw & wave 'bye at the losers the accepted pratice in your association [I doubt it]? Does Bozo make a habit of this? What do THEY recomend that you do about it? Phrase it in terms of your concern for a major stink-storm brewing, esp. w/ the bye-bye, and I bet dollars to donuts they will be receptive and helpful.
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