Thu Apr 14, 2005, 10:50am
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Garth,
Agreed.
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Originally posted by GarthB
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Originally posted by Kaliix
Garth,
I agree that everyone heals differently and if your friend or anyone feels that strongly about that, then good for them and I wish them well in their healing process.
But if that is your choice to have nothing interfere with your ritual, accept the consequences of those actions. That's all.
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Originally posted by GarthB
"He pointed out that he didn't attend events on Sundays because of a family matter. His sister had died, and everyone gathered on Sunday to commemorate/remember the event. His sister died more than two years ago.
I argued that a family meeting such as that could be moved earlier or later, especially since two years had passed for a healing to take place."
Everyone "heals" and honors their loved ones differently. I have a dear friend, who still, five years afte his wife passed away, takes a yellow rose to her grave and then has breakfast at their favorite restaurant every Sunday. Nothing, interfers with this routine.
We need to accept the possibility that not everyone reacts to loss as we do. Unless you have evidence that Hector was really at the beach throwing back brews on Sunday, I don't believe you should have challenged his practice.
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Kaliix, I agree completely. And if Carl had made that argument, I would have agreed with him on that as well. Instead, he made a value judgment of Hector's grieving process. I don't believe that was right.
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Well I am certainly wiser than this man. It is only too likely that neither of us has any knowledge to boast of; but he thinks that he knows something which he does not know, whereas I am quite conscious of my ignorance. At any rate it seems that I am wiser than he is to this small extent, that I do not think that I know what I do not know. ~Socrates
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