[scottk_61]

I have been in associations like you describe and I have been in good ones.
Some things you can change some you can't

I worked hard to be involved where I am now, and love it.
My association is primarily Fed ball but we are also ASA.
We do a lot of training.
In our association, if you don't meet the minimum training sessions, you don't get any (let me say this loudly...ANY) post season play.
We also cut back the number of games you get.
In other words, if you don't show some effort you don't get the good stuff.
We offer at least 12 training sessions each high school season of which a certain number is required. You can get up to 10 promotion points (one for each session attended) but out of the 12 or so sessions, some are mandatory.
Don't show up, don't plan on getting assigned.
It can be tough and we do have an absence policy to help out.
Our association decided to do this at the same time we banded together and voted out our old Board of Directors.

Things have been moving along nicely the last few years not all is smooth as glass but it works for us.

The reason I am telling you this, is so that you can see it can be better.
You might have to provoke change in many ways or in a few ways and it will take more work on your part than what you have now.

Have fun with it and stick with it.