1. If it went over the rectangle backboard, your ref kicked it. Why was your girls standing out of bounds?
2. It's not a T until the ref gives the ball to the shooter. Most refs will catch it and let you know you're girls are a little over anxious. I won't start if I know there are six.
3. Good move. While I certainly would have hit the coach for what he said, you played it smart. Realize that at this level, you're not always going to get the most experienced refs. I also wouldn't have asked you to repeat yourself; let alone asked you twice.