Absolutely stick around for the varsity match-up. I used to set behind the scorer - that way I could see the reporting of the officials and here the same communication as the scorers did. It is my biggest regret (so far) about working varsity - I no longer get to buy a hot dog, a drink, and watch a well officiated game to mellow after my own.
I rarely had problems that couldn't be solved with a smile and some light conversation. Don't act defensive; that just incites the fight. "Yeah, that was a tough one." "You know, I didn't like that call very well either." "Yeah, that one got everybody excited didn't it?"
As for a response to direct confrontation...
Either take it with a grain of salt - The guy is obviously not an official and surely not an evaluator. So just smile, laugh, "If you think that one was bad, you should have seen my last game!" Who cares what he thinks? You, of all people, should not.
Or facetiously accept him as the valid evaluator he is trying to tell you that he is. "Really? Where and what level of games do you work?" "Give me some specific things to work on." "What did you think of this play where ... and I was kind of screened ... and I came up with ...?" "Why?" "Well, that sounds kind of like an emotional response. I need some hard factual things to work with here. Not just you didn't like the call. Why was the call wrong? To what rule should I refer?" Flatten his sails. Now you can say, "You obviously haven't got a clue. But I do know that if you continue to harass me, this gentleman right here (administrator) will be happy, and probably very excited, to escort your ignorant butt out-ta-here!"
I like the first one better. It takes them off guard when you agree with them. And again, who cares? He's an idiot.
Stay and watch the varsity game. It's a fast, cheap way to improve. Soemtimes you can help them out too. Several are the times in our association that we've had to have the JV official re-dress and finish for an injured Varsity dude.
Cheers
