[SamIAm]

It sounds like you did fine Junker. As I understand the situation, the official right next to the ball made a call. You did not see enough to determine the accuracy of the call. After the fact, the other official describes what happened and the two of you realizes the call was screwed up.

Coaches yell alot. Don't stop the game everytime.
Each posession is potentially worth 2 or 3 points (without a foul). If you wouldn't stop the game with 6 minutes left in the first half to debate a call, don't stop the game for the same call with 6 seconds left.

Dan_ref as a coach, if you don't let the game get to overtime because of your frustration, you have taken the game away from 6th graders. How stupid is that! It is a game the girls had a chance to win and did because their coach was smarter than that.