[Dan_ref]

Originally posted by ChuckElias

Because that report goes to my assignor. And if my assignor thinks that I have a quick trigger, or that I ref with a chip on my shoulder, or that I can't handle a guy looking at me the wrong way, I lose assignments. So I want to be able to put a quote on that report: "He called me a so-and-so". I don't want the report to say, "I didn't like the way he was looking at me".

No. But you and I both know that as you move up, the name of the game is "beat the tape". When the commissioner looks at that tape (and you know he'll get the tape if you throw that T), I don't want to get a phone call asking, "What did he say to you?" or "What did he do?" I want it to be obvious that something happened.

And finally, you focused on my comment about the report and overlooked the most important part of that post. You can't T the coach b/c he hasn't done anything illegal. Looking at you is not illegal. There's nothing in the book that prohibits "staring" or "glaring" or whatever. He hasn't addressed you in a disrespectful manner, b/c he hasn't addressed you at all. If you really feel that the staring is not acceptible, you put that T "in your pocket", as Edgar would say, and bring it out the next time he does something that is borderline that you might normally let go. I personally would not do this, but I honestly believe that you can't T a guy for doing literally nothing.

I don't put one in my pocket.

I don't take unsporting disrespectful bullsh1t from coaches. Where I come from staring someone down is a threat. If the coach is too stupid to realize this then too f'ing bad.

I don't worry about what I'll say to anyone after taking care of business.