First of all, do not compare any officiating of any kind to a Men's League. There is nothing that goes on in a Men's League that goes on in any kind of basketball or any other sport if you do them. Men's Leagues are a bunch of wannabe, never had been, or complete has beens playing in a league where there is often no "real coach," no real structure and just no real play.
So to compare what goes on here is like comparing a milkshake to to a Long Island Ice Tea. You can drink both of them, but one gets you drunk, the other might make you full.
Do yourself a favor, get out while you can.
Peace