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Officials should be approachable.
Experience will let you know what coaches are approachable.

In three man, I can have a quick chat with a coach during a live ball. Seldom do I chat in two man but will give a quick word or two answer or explanation as I run by. If a coach wants a major discussion about a rule, there should be a timeout.

Tell a coach what you saw, or the way you saw it. Or maybe, "Hey coach, I didn't see it that way" and move on. Do not be afraid to admit to a blown call. Even one of your partner's blown calls without sh*ting on them. "Yeah coach, I may have missed that one" or "coach, my partner may have had a tough angle there, we may owe you one."

That doesn't mean that you will give them one back but you were honest and you defused a confrontation.

When you have discussed it enough, let the coach know. You can tell them, you can hold up your hand to them. Be firm not timid; be serious, don't try and make jokes or be buddies with the coaches.

Have respect for the coach and their position, and earn their respect for yours.