[Andy]

One-whistle,

I can certainly sympathize with your situation and have been there a few times myself.

One thing that I discovered was that I needed to call my game and let my partner hang on his own. In other words, I would not have approached him in the situations you mentioned, but let him make his calls and go forward.

Specifically regarding sit #2, let him hang with the no-call. You coming in from a distance after a delay just takes a bad situation and makes it worse. He already looks bad for no-calling the crash, now you look bad by coming in late from far away from the play right in front of your partner.

Obviously, you are striving to improve and become a better official. Your intentions are good, but some people (your partner) just aren't going to change. Yes, the officials on the court are a team, but there are times where each official stands (or falls) on his own.