[greymule]

I know people that would slide steel up in a non-competitive co-rec game if we let them and does anybody really want that?

Certainly not. I favor the ASA/NSA/USSSA/Fed rules about fake tags, crashes, etc., and I played ASA when crashing the catcher to dislodge the ball was legal.

The top co-ed league around here plays in the fall (final playoffs were November 10). Most of the women are very good, and many of the men are heroes on the big summer teams. However, the men clearly cut their level of aggressiveness down two or three notches. (They never, for example, slide into a woman or smash the ball up the middle when a woman is pitching.) It is in the business co-ed leagues, which are full of big Little Leaguers trying to prove something, where the problems lie.