Freshman boys game last night. H-team is crying a lot during the game about calls against them. After one foul on H, we're lining up for some V freethrows. H-1, in the bottom slot, swears in my ear. Whack!
Coach indicated to me after the game that he thought I was quick on that and should have warned the kids. Of course, coach also accused me of changing the flow of the game with that call (lost by 30) and asked me if it was something personal. Never had him before.
Thoughts?

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No reason to doubt yourself on this one! If the coach says that to me I tell them swearing on the court is penalized by a T everytime I hear it. Usually a coach will just want to know what you heard. They will take matters in their own hands in most cases and the player will be taken out immediately. Any coach that thinks you cost them the game because you have made a correct call is just "howling".

Tell the coach, "When you can show me where in the rule book that it says where I have to warn your player for swearing at me before giving him a technical foul, then I will listen to your argument."

He's the coach. In this situation, the best thing he can do is actually COACH.

I think, but never say, "If you'd coach instead of ref, maybe your team would be doing better!"

Tell the coach to get a rule book and litelight all the rules he does not want you to follow and you will submit it to your supervisor to see if it is OK.

You know the ol' saying...
"Good Coaches coach, bad Coaches referee!"

Also, when a Coach wants to know what a player said to get a T...I just tell him, "It's not so much WHAT he said, it's HOW he said it." That is what is unsporting, the action not necessarily the verbage.

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