Why does this happen?

[Dan_ref]

Originally posted by South Bay HHVBC
In defense of the kids, you have to remember that some of these kids really dont know what the hell is going on regardless if they are on the bench or in uniform starting for a team. Many players are just beginners. Some kids have coaches who dont tell them the rules. Sometimes its pretty loud in the gym and possibly he/she didnt hear the ref signal 2 shots physically and verbally. What I found is that most of the kids are just too damn nervous on the court and really get caught up in what they are supposed to immediately after the free throw/s instead of focus on the exact situation at hand.

Well, yeah, maybe, but I'm talking about kids who shave. And drive.

Believe it or not, some kids just ask just so they can talk to the ref. It sounds stupid but I used to do this as a player(i guess some of you guys are mad at me). I would ask or just repeat what the ref said in a questioning way so that he can respond to me, 1 on 1. I dont know exactly why I did this but when the ref would make eye contact with me and tell me the situation, it gave me a feeling that I knew that me and the ref were on the same page. This made me at ease for some weird reason.

Bingo! This is exactly what I think is going on most of the time.