what does a ref think when a player argues or talks?

[JRutledge]

The only way it might affect what I do for the rest of the game, is that when you start complaining, I probably will be paying more attention to what you are doing. Then whatever I see, I will call. So that means if you are complaining about your opponent pushing, and in the process I see you pushing, I know what to call.

When you complain you draw undue attention to yourself. Because maybe your complaint is ligitimate, but I watch to see for myself. And if you are the one causing the contact or causing the problem, you just gave me better understanding of why you were complaining, you are trying to get away with something.

My best advice, keep your mouth shut and I will find the "problem" by myself. All you do by complaining is help me.

Peace