What would you call?

[Junker]

Smitty,
Everyone has a little different view on what they will call unsportsmanlike. It sounds like the T you gave was justified. I wouldn't let the comments of an official not working the game shake you. I'm sure almost everyone on the forum would agree that lower level coaches are allowed far less leeway to question officials than varsity coaches. As you gain more experience, you'll have a better feel for what you deem unsportsmanlike. Let the varsity official enforce his view in his game and you work yours. I know from my own personal experience, my first year I put up with more crap than I should have, my third year I probably threw a couple of T's I shouldn't have, but now I have better game management skills and know when I have to give the T and when I can talk to coaches and players instead.