Penalty situation?

[ilya]

In my game today (i'm a player, not a ref), the other team had 7 team fouls, going into the 2nd quarter
they fouled us a minute into the 2nd quarter, and the ref just gave the ball to us OOB. the scores keeper told him that the team was in the penalty (1-and-1) and the ref didn't say anything
during the half time, the coach asked him why he didn't give us any FTs. the ref started making up exscuses like "oh they were shooting fouls anyways so you got what you wanted", even 3 of the 4 fouls were just reaching in.
we ended up NOT shooting like 2 or 3 one-and-ones.

what can the ref do if he makes a mistake like that, and what can the players do about it? i was gonna tell the ref (right after the fou), that they're in the penalty, but didn't, cuz refs in our rec league aren't exactly 'nice' and don't respond to your requests very well.

Mark, i hope you can answer this question as you're in Portland as well as i am and you might know some of the refs who do HYB games..

thanks to everyone who responds in advance
peace out


happy reffing!